Sure, we all like to share things in life but some things we should just keep to ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, it is great to have a friend you can go to when you need advice but some things just need to remain unmentioned.
Some of the more innermost things that we want to share should not be shared. Regardless of how close someone is to you the things listed below should never be spoken about. Keep these things to yourself and see how far you get. Oversharing is not something that strengthens bonds, it creates problems.
Take more care about your private life. We give you the top 8 things you should never talk about.
1. Relationship problems (Within Reason)
Always ask for help if you’re stuck into an abusive relationship. However, complaining about every little thing associated with your relationship is not the way to go.
Your partner is the only person you should talk to regarding your relationship issues. Don’t share anything with others, because your problem may grow even more.
Your finances are something you have to deal with on your own. Don’t mention this kind of thing with friends or even family. Where you are in your wallet does not pertain to anyone but you.
3. Personal life
Sure sharing some of your personal life is fine but don’t share every single detail. Set healthy boundaries and don’t push them. Only talk about things you are comfortable talking about, you are not supposed to be as open as you think.
4. Family problems
Family issues are a big no-no. Sure, if something serious is going on and you must mention it be sure it is someone you trust but otherwise keep things on the down low. Don’t let this kind of thing slip, it will create more trouble than it is worth.
5. Any good deeds
Don’t brag about your good deeds. It’s good that you care about others and do good things about them, but sharing and bragging won’t make you a greater hero. Every time you do anything good about someone, keep it to yourself.
6. Life goals
Saying too much about your goals may keep you away from your dreams. Don’t waste your energy talking about your plans. Work on your future, and say nothing about it.
7. Personal belongings
Don’t brag about anything you own. You can talk about your new bag or phone, but don’t do that too much. Bragging may hurt someone else’s feelings, especially if that person doesn’t have as much as you do.
8. Personal struggles and weaknesses
Sharing too much about your weakness can help others defeat you. Some people just soak up everything they hear, and use it later in life.
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10 Things Smart People Never Say In Public
These are the 10 things that you will never hear from Smart People or an emotionally intelligent person:
1.It’s not fair!
Mature adults are well aware that life is not fair. Maybe the situation that happened is an egregious injustice and completely unfair. But, people around us that are not familiar with the incident or any of the previous things that happened will not have a clue what you are talking about. Also, saying this will never solve the problem.
Instead of feeling bad, try to resolve the issue by focusing your attention and efforts. This will help you feel better and also solve the problem.
2.You look tired.
We can never know for sure about what is happening in someone else’s life. Saying this to someone regardless of your good intentions will show them that everyone can see their problems on their face. So, instead of telling someone they look tired, try a more empathetic approach by asking them is everything okay. This will show that you are concerned about that is going on in their life.
3.For your/a… statements
This includes saying something like “For a woman you have achieved so much”, or “You look great for your age”. As much as we want to avoid it, we know that there are age and gender biases. Saying things like this can offend the person you are talking to. Instead of including the age or gender factor, just compliment the person.
4.As I’ve said before…
This could imply that you are insulted because you have to repeat yourself or you may also sound like a snob and people could get the impression you feel superior over them. Repeating the same things over and over can be frustrating, however clarify what you are saying without verbalizing that frustration.
5.You never… or you always…
No one ever does or doesn’t do anything. These words could give the impression of dishonesty or drama and they are used to hurt the feelings of someone else. Try to explain to the other person what they did wrong and provide examples.
Luck is something that we have no control over and it is influenced by other factors we can’t change. For example, winning the lottery is pure luck and you can’t do anything to increase your chances.
Even though this is a common saying that shows good intention, it is much better to say “I know you have what it takes” or “You’ve got this in the bag”. This can increase the person’s confidence rather than their belief in their luck.
7.It doesn’t matter to me
A person who asks for your opinion means they want to hear what are your thoughts on a certain subject. Avoiding the answer by saying “it doesn’t matter” can suggest that the situation will not affect you in any way or that you don’t think you should waste time to provide feedback. However, if you don’t have time at the moment, tell the person when you will be available for discussion.
8.With all due respect …
This is not something that shows respect towards the person you are talking to. It is actually about your body language, voice intonation as well as how you frame your words which say a lot more about respect rather than saying this phrase.
9.I told you so…
This shows superiority and makes you seem like a school boy/girl because of the immature tone. If you have warned someone about the consequences of their action and they failed, saying I told you so will not change anything. It is not even constructive criticism, so instead of rubbing the person’s failure to their face, try to help them recover of find a way to resolve the issue.
10.I give up
This is a phrase that we use when there is a challenge in front of us that we think we will never be able to overcome. It could include a horrible boss, a hard project, a disdainful co-worker etc. However, your attitude is the only thing that is between you and your success. Never lose faith in your capability to achieve things and motivate yourself by saying “I can do this.”
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