Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between two or more people. Although there are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place, certain characteristics are present in many types of friendship. Such characteristics include affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, mutual understanding, trust and much more. Remember there are some friends you have to be careful with. It’s really important to know about the friends you might want to breakup with. It may be the time to identify what this person is really up to and whether this is a friendship worth keeping.
1. Selfish friend
At first sight you know what kind of a friend is this. This person always thinks about, talks about themselves. They don’t care what’s up to you or what’s going on around you. They are unable to separate their own thoughts from others. You couldn’t able to see their presence in your life events. Even for your happiness, they are not being with you. They just want to show up their success or boast about their properties. They never respect your anything. Either they don’t listen to you and never apologize. Also these people ignore you in a group to be highlighted themselves. ‘It’s all about me’, ‘me’, and ‘myself’ are the most common words inside them.
2. Cunning friend
In the other hand we can call them as opportunists. This type of a person hangs out with you when it only suits them. Whenever you get tough or hard times, they start to reject or ignore you. This person always comes to you when they need something. They like to use you because you own a car, an apartment or home, lots of money or something more valuable than others. You may notice borrowing become an issue. They borrow your money and never pay you back. Actually they never return a favor. A cunning friend is really dangerous to trust because they may use your emotions against you. Be careful of them, cause they can emotionally blackmail you. Totally they try to playing around with your emotions to fulfill their dreams. The hardest thing to figure out about these people is whether they lie or tell truth. They may promise to be with you through thick and through thin but never be there for you. Indeed their actions don’t match words.
3. Jealousy friend
This is a person who doesn’t like to see your success. Basically if every time you become success or have good news, your friend acts distant, it could mean they are jealous. A jealous kind of a friend gives the credit to someone else no matter what you did. A deeply jealous friend never acknowledge that you may actually have earned or even deserve good things that are happening to you. They put a big fake smile on their face whenever good things happen. You can feel the smell of fake smile if you really know that person well. This person never supports you to make your own empire. Usually they find out mistakes, disadvantages of your successful work. They mostly talk behind your back rather than appreciate your achievements. It’s all because they don’t truly happy for your success. Also this type of a person can’t share you with other people. In case of this, a jealousy friend can ruin your relationship for their sake.
4. Bossy friend
This is someone who needs to be one-up on you. They aren’t helping in need. They always try to change you when you are becoming success. A bossy friend doesn’t respect to your ideas and they try to guide you to a bad position. It makes them feel so good. This kind of a person may advice you more but never wants to see your best. Whenever you become success they will be aggressive. However they want to find something better than you but they won’t show how they really feel inside. If they ever get a chance to make you to be addicted to drugs or alcohol, they will definitely do it without any hesitate. They will appreciate your bad behavior and guide you to be a jerk.
It’s not easy to understand a fake friendship but even it’s not that hard to figure out a true friendship. A real friend is the one who motivates you to become success. Be with people who appreciate your good things rather than complain about each and everything of you. Be with someone who helps to make your empire. Be with someone who always keeps you up. Always avoid the people who try to pull you down. It’s better to be alone rather having jerks in your life. Think! What kind of a friend are you? Or else which types of friends you have? It’s time for a change.
5 Types Of Toxic People You Never Want In Life
With that said, here are 5 types of toxic people to keep at a distance in life:
1. THOSE THAT SHIFT BLAME
“People who ruin their own lives have a strong tendency to blame other people when things go wrong.” – Dr. Daniel G. Amen
The odds are that we’ve all encountered people like this in our life. These are the types of individuals that personify the word “victimization.” In other words, they refuse to be accountable for anything that may bestow a sense of responsibility. Instead, they’ll intently shift said responsibility onto another that does not deserve such treatment.
Almost always, people that constantly blame others lack any semblance of self-control or self-discipline. They’re all too willing to sacrifice someone else to protect their own “good name.” Should you find yourself in the presence of such a person, the best course of action is to hold ground and refuse to partake in their victimizing words.
2. THOSE THAT ALWAYS COMPLAIN
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.” – Benjamin Franklin
Ugh… it really sucks to be in the presence of a complainer. It’d be one thing if they’d keep their grievances to themselves; but no, instead they choose to verbalize them to anyone and everyone who will listen.
Interacting with someone who constantly complains is difficult, as it is often almost impossible to get a word in edgewise. Here’s an advantage, though – such people are often not very rational in either their inner or outer discourse. So, just listen and seek clarification. If they do indeed have a valid complaint, it’s at your discretion whether to engage in conversation. If instead, they choose to barrage you with unsubstantiated and irrational banter verbally, (absolutely) refuse to engage in such a manner.
In other words, just walk away or ignore.
3. THOSE THAT INVITE OR INITIATE GOSSIP
“Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.” – Socrates
Gossipers (probably) exist in every nook and cranny of this planet.
Often, insecurity is at the root of gossip, as divulging (often untrue) tidbits about another human being makes gossipers feel better. Sadly, such individuals often thrive off adverse circumstances that someone is often going through. They give no mind, no empathy, no desistance to offering up (again, often untrue) statements about someone whose life they may negatively affect.
In addition to harming themselves and the victim(s), gossiping can induce a negative mindset to those around them.
4. THOSE ONLY INTERESTED IN SELF-GAIN
“Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do.” – Rachel Wolchin
People preoccupied with the question “What’s in it for me?” are often master manipulators, and using this predisposed attitude for self-gain. In addition to possessing a flair for the manipulative, such individuals also have a strong narcissistic streak – and may very well fall under the narcissist demographic.
Regarding manipulation, self-gainers will toy with others emotions. This is done to create a sense of guilt and uneasiness with not helping the self-gainer advance their own foggy agenda. Make no mistake, self-gainers couldn’t care less about the undue harm that their actions cause. Sadly, such people see others as a means to an end – nothing more.
Throughout one’s interaction with a self-gainer, it may become apparent that they are more than willing to “take” whatever is necessary; but, should someone ask for a favor in return, their quickly rendered silent by excuses, lies, or just plain indifference.
These types of people serve nothing other than themselves. So, give them what they want – and leave it up to them to find the solution for what they need.
5. THOSE THAT SEEK COA
“Everything you do for attention is the reason why you don’t have mine.” – Unknown
Those determined to be at the center of attention (COAs) are often verbal and annoyingly persistent in their pursuit of such. COAs not only enjoy being at the center. They need it.
But when a grown man or grown woman continues to insist on being the COA, it’s almost assuredly a psychological abnormality.
We deal with COA adults the same way we teach children not to create drama for attention. We ignore it.